10 Things I Swore I Wouldn’t Do As A Mom That I Totally Do!

September 1, 2016

*This is a sponsored post by Payless. As always, all opinions are my own. 

Things I Said I Wouldn't Do As A Mom

Jaime Cittadino of Sunflowers and Stilettos talking about motherhood

Harley Cittadino of Sunflowers and Stilettos wearing Payless KangaROOS

Sunflowers and Stilettos mommy and me shoot with Payless KangaROOS

Fashion blogger Jaime Cittadino of Sunflowers and Stilettos with daughter Harley Liv for a Mommy and Me Shoot.

Payless KangaROOS

Mother Daughter Photo Shoot

South Florida Mommy Blogger Jaime Cittadino of Sunflowers and Stilettos

On Jaime:  Top  //  Similar Jeans and Under $70  //  Payless KangaROOS c/o

On Harley:  Top  //  Shorts  //  Payless KangaROOS c/o

Oh the things we say [and think] before becoming a parent. Why is it that we truly believe that when it’s our turn to raise a tiny human, everything is going to be perfect. Temper tantrums? Not my child! Blatantly ignoring me? Nope! Could never happen! Bribing my kid with anything she wants in the cookie aisle just so I can finish grocery shopping before the next person gives me the “get a hold of your child” look?! Ha! Only bad parents have to deal with that! Yeah…it’s funny how quickly you realize that you are just like all the other parents out there, trying to SURVIVE!

Before I continue with today’s article, I do want to take a second to thank Payless for sending Harley and I these new KangaROOS! As most of you are aware, The Cittadinos are big time shoe lovers. I’ve personally been wearing sneakers more and more on a daily basis. A few years ago, you wouldn’t see me caught dead wearing jeans and kicks together, but now, it’s a common combo and my feet are so happy about that! Do you remember these KangaROOS from forever ago?! They’re back and better than ever! They come in a ton of cute color combos and I love the little side pocket they have on the outside of the shoe. For Harley, having the velcro closure makes things super easy. I swear, the first time putting these Payless KangaROOS on her, she got SO excited that she had new pink shoes. She started jumping around like a crazy person screaming, “PINK! PURPLE! LELLOW! [That’s how she pronounces yellow.] Harley’s shoes! Harley’s shoes!!” We love wearing them so thank you Payless!

Okay, now back on track. Here are the 10 Things I Swore I Wouldn’t Do As A Mom That I Totally Do!

1. Buy anything pink or floral if it’s a girl. 

If I’m being honest, before learning the gender of our child, I was more excited with the idea of dressing up a baby boy than girl. I was never an ultra feminine dresser growing up and even now, so was a bit overwhelmed by all of the girliness. As you can see, I got over that real quick!! LOL!

2. Buy baby food from a store because everything I give my infant will be home made.

Um, yeah. So about this… I made my own baby food for a hot minute. Maybe even two minutes. Perhaps if I wasn’t working, it would have been a different story. In theory it sounds great and I really do wish I would have had the time for it. Of course we gave her things like avocado, sweet potato, and banana that maybe needed a bit of breast milk or formula to thin out in the beginning, but as far as different fruit and veggie combos, I relied on store bought food. Fortunately now, there are tons of healthy options that remove unnecessary processed ingredients.

3. Give my child formula! He or She will only be nursed and fed breast milk until they’re old enough for cow’s milk.

I understand why giving your child breast milk is strongly encouraged. There are tons of amazing benefits! However, to put pressure on yourself to solely give your kid breast milk is not the greatest idea. At least for me it wasn’t. I loved nursing Harley, but didn’t have enough of a supply to store up milk to have for when I was away from her or when she was more hungry. Even after she was sleeping through the night, I had to wake myself up one to two times to pump just so I could build up a supply. I was miserable and exhausted. Pumping is so different than nursing. You have to be fully awake, sitting upright, and then get out of bed to clean the parts and put the milk away. AND when you’re husband makes comments about “the noise” from the breast pump interrupting his beauty sleep, you literally want to murder him! I made the decision to introduce formula to Harley around 6 months, but totally regret not using it sooner. We used Baby’s Only Organic Formula and she didn’t skip a beat. I felt so much better knowing that she’d never go hungry or be without food. The fact that I was able to function a little bit better during the day also made me a much better mom!

4. Never let my kids eat junk food! Organic fruits, veggies, and lean meats only.

Casey and I care about nutrition. Since 2012, we’ve made such huge changes when it comes to the foods we buy at the grocery store, the meals we make at home, and what we order at restaurants. Are we perfect and eat clean 100% of the time? Heck no! You can still bet my favorite foods are pizza, french fries, and bagels. But we are very aware of what we put into our bodies. We read labels and limit processed foods as much as possible. When Harley started eating solids, we never gave her crackers, cereal, pretzels or any of that stuff. After a year old, we put her in pre-school full time. She gets healthy lunches from a kids food delivery service, but she also eats cheerios in the morning for snack, Friday is pizza day, and I’m sure she goes to town when parents bring in cake for their kid’s birthday. She had tons of ice pops this summer at the beach, and she requests noodles for dinner every single night. As long as we continue giving her as much good, whole foods as possible, we have to let her be a kid and just know that she’s going to eat other things too sometimes.

5. Share a ridiculous amount of pictures of my baby on social media. Like we get it…they’re cute. 

Harley has her own Instagram account. Enough said.

6. Brag about my child’s developmental skills and how smart they are.

Before becoming a mom, I remember people making comments about their kids doing or saying something they thought was so fabulous. No offense to them, but I just didn’t get the excitement. In my opinion, unless you’re a nanny, a teacher, or parent, you don’t understand what infants and toddlers are supposed to be doing. What’s normal? What’s advanced? And really, who cares?? Well, after having a child, I can say that I do care! And it is so exciting! The first time Harley counted to ten on her own and sang the ABC’s, I probably told every single person I know. It’s possible I even sent them 5 videos of her saying it over and over again. If you follow us on snapchat, then you know what I’m talking about! Obviously, I really don’t mean to “brag” or compare Harley to any other child. It just makes me so happy to watch her learn and grow.

7. Allow my child to sleep in bed with me.

Harley slept next to our bed for the first two months in a side sleeper. At 8 weeks, we started sleep training her in her crib and fortunately she slept through the night very early on [see, there I go bragging again! 😉 Don’t worry, I’m sure our future children will be horrible sleepers]. Then things like teething, ear infections, colds, and other awful things happen that keep them up at night. I used to stay in Harley’s nursery and rock with her until she would fall back asleep on my chest. Now, if she has trouble sleeping, I immediately bring her into our room and cuddle with her in bed. It’s actually my favorite thing! Except the girl sleeps perpendicular to us and usually kicks me in my side really hard! But, the snuggles before she practically kicks me off the bed are totally worth it!

8. Put an iPad in front of my kid’s face so they can entertain themselves.

Casey and I were anti iPad for a longggg time. After almost getting kicked out of a few restaurants though [or wanting to hide underneath the table], we figured there can be a time and place for it. I don’t love it for many reasons, but if it saves me from her freaking out on an airplane or allows me to finish a meal, then selfishly I am thankful for that digital tablet that entertains her for periods of time! There are so many different learning apps available and when all fails, she watches Minnie on YouTube. She’s happy. I’m happy.

9. Allow my son or daughter to sit in front of the television more than once a day.

Similar to the iPad, I much prefer Harley playing outside, coloring, reading books, and putting puzzles together. However, when she’s up at 7am on a Saturday, and Casey and I finished a bottle of Malbec the night before, you better believe I am thankful for the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Sesame Street, and Maya the Bee. She’s in school Monday through Friday, from 9am to 5pm learning and doing activities. We read to her every night before bed and spend most of the weekends out and about, so I think she’ll be okay watching tv.

10. Sing children’s songs on a regular basis.

Not only do I sing them, but I dance too. And I kinda like it. 🙂


So that’s that! It’s safe to say that there’s no such thing as a perfect parent. Or a perfect child. We do things we used to judge others for doing and sometimes change our minds about certain rules when it’s convenient to do so. We all just need to come together, accept each other’s parenting ways, and let our kids be kids!

I’d love to hear what you fellow mommas have to say about these things. Is there anything you swore you’d never do that you do now? Tell me in the comments below!!

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  • Laura @ Walking in Memphis in High Heels September 1, 2016 at 10:22 am

    She’s so adorable! Love your shoes!

  • Ashley September 1, 2016 at 10:33 am

    I LOVE this! I know I’m totally going to be like that. haha

  • Ashley Zeal September 1, 2016 at 10:50 am

    You know what they say? Rules were meant to be broken!!! She is too cute.

  • Nina September 1, 2016 at 10:56 am

    Loved this post! I can totally see myself doing all of these things. Harley is adorable of course. And that part about the iPad…I have images of what happened to it in Mizner in my head, lol!

    xo, Nina
    Law of Fashion Blog

  • Andrea Perullo September 1, 2016 at 11:25 am

    You’re such a good mama! I miss you all tons!!! <3

  • Jessica Sheppard September 1, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    I have a feeling I will be exactly like that…love your things you said you’d never do!!! 🙂

  • Lee Anne September 1, 2016 at 12:34 pm

    Love this post, you two are so cute!

    Lee Anne

  • Shelby Skaggs September 1, 2016 at 12:52 pm

    How cute are y’all!? This post is so cute!


  • Morgan September 1, 2016 at 2:50 pm

    I loved reading this post! I think I can most relate ((even though I’m not a mom)) to the eating all clean foods and not letting them have an iPad. In a perfect world yes we would do those things but we have to show ourselves and our children grace and let em live! You are a fabulous mom and I have enjoyed watching you and you little family throughout the years!

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  • Greta September 1, 2016 at 4:09 pm

    Love your blue sneakers! Such fun colors!

    Greta | http://www.gretahollar.com

  • Brianne George September 1, 2016 at 6:29 pm

    This is too funny! I am the you before kids! I feel the same way, but I’m sure that will all change once kids finally come along 😉

    Xo, Brianne

  • Christie September 1, 2016 at 8:10 pm

    So true! So real! So accurate! And I’m guilty of every single one!!!!

  • Sandy a la Mode September 2, 2016 at 1:50 am

    haha love this post and i can totally relate!!!

  • Jessica September 2, 2016 at 3:26 am

    I love your honesty here, it was really entertaining to read this because these are all things that I’ve sworn I won’t do as a mom someday…lol. Never say never I guess!
    – Jessica
    Miss Moore Style

  • Melissa September 2, 2016 at 9:59 am

    I can totally relate to this article. First off, LOVE these KangaROOS! My boys are obsessed with theirs. You definitely learn to eat a lot of your own words once you have a kid. Lol.


  • Leah September 2, 2016 at 5:58 pm

    OMG do I ever remember KangaROOS?! How cute!! Love the comeback!

    xx Leah / http://www.eatpraywearlove.com

  • Sara September 2, 2016 at 6:54 pm

    This was such a cute post! As we prepare for our upcoming wedding and babies in the near future, we are always talking about what kind of parents we will be and I’m pretty sure nothing will go according to our silly plan lol!

    xo, Sara

  • Angelle Marix September 4, 2016 at 1:55 pm

    Y’all are both so beautiful!! Love those kicks. I totally agree with breaking all of the rules that we set before becoming parents… I’ve done all of the above!! I’m realizing that as long as they know that they loved and feel affirmed then I’m doing great!! Lol!! I do try to instill in them balance which helps with time management and nutrition. Lawd, those iPads and video games are addicting for them.


  • Elise September 4, 2016 at 3:55 pm

    Love this post! Thanks for sharing. The sneakers are so cute too!

  • Amanda | Glitter & Spice September 4, 2016 at 7:50 pm

    Aw I love y’all’s lil matching shoes. So cute!!
    XO Amanda | http://www.glitterandspice.com

  • Erica @ Coming Up Roses September 5, 2016 at 7:19 am

    First off, you + your daughter are SO CUTE together.
    Second, love the shoes, and lovelovelove Payless.
    Third, LOVE this idea as a sponsored campaign…props to you for creativity + relativity!
    Fourth, my fiance and I are getting married in less than two weeks, so we’ve chatted kid things and as of now are similar to where you and Casey were re: iPad…it’s such a struggle! Wondering how it’ll end up…ha!

    Coming Up Roses

  • Mindy Thompson September 5, 2016 at 6:13 pm

    Harley is always so adorable! She gets if from her Momma!

  • Emily September 6, 2016 at 11:05 am

    So cute!! I feel like everything goes out the window once you get an animal or have kids… Never say never haha!

  • Christina | Oh So Glam September 6, 2016 at 12:23 pm

    Your daughter is BEYOND adorable! I can’t stop staring at her little outfit!

  • Steve Borsak September 7, 2016 at 4:15 pm

    Love this Jaime. Can relate to all 10 of these, been through the same dilemmas .